How to use them during the workday
- Attach each line to a moment. Opening your laptop, walking into a meeting, the mid-afternoon slump, closing the laptop. A line linked to something you do every day is much easier to remember than one you have to think of.
- Keep three in view. A sticky note on your monitor, your phone’s lock screen, or a reminder in your calendar before the meeting that worries you.
- Use “you” under pressure. Before a presentation or a hard conversation, talk to yourself as “you” or by name: “You know this material. Slow down.” People who prepared for a stressful speech this way felt less distressed and were rated as giving better speeches (Kross et al., 2014).
- End the day on purpose. Say an after-work line as you close the laptop. It marks the line between work and the rest of your life.
A two-minute values reset for stressful days
In psychology, “self-affirmation” mostly means reflecting on values that matter to you, not repeating slogans. In one lab study, people who reflected on an important personal value before a stressful task had lower cortisol (stress hormone) responses than people who did a neutral task (Creswell et al., 2005).
You can borrow that before a review, a big pitch or a tense meeting. Take two minutes to write a few sentences about something you care about that has nothing to do with the task: your family, your faith, being a good friend, your craft. Then go in. It doesn’t make the meeting matter less. It reminds you that it isn’t all of you.
Why believable lines work better at work
Workplaces are full of people who would roll their eyes at “I am a powerful leader who attracts success.” You might too, and that matters. In a well-known study, people with low self-esteem felt worse after repeating a positive line they didn’t believe (Wood, Perunovic & Lee, 2009). So the lines here are small enough to be true at 9 a.m. on a Tuesday: “I can break this project into steps and start the first one” instead of “I crush every deadline.”
When work stress is more than stress
If dread about work follows you home most nights, or starts to affect your sleep or your health, take it seriously. Affirmations can help on a hard day, but they aren’t a replacement for care, for an honest conversation with your manager, or for help from a doctor or therapist. If you’re struggling or thinking about harming yourself, you can call or text 988 in the US (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline), or find a helpline in your country at findahelpline.com.