Why it’s written this way
Worried children often feel that something is wrong with them for worrying. This loop starts by making worries normal, for kids and grown-ups alike, then explains them in a way a young child can understand: a worry is a safety alarm that rings too loudly.
The breathing note uses smell the flower and blow out the candle, a picture children can follow without counting. The hand-on-tummy note gives them something to feel, not just something to think. Then the loop encourages the most helpful thing an anxious child can do, which is to tell a grown-up.
The middle note separates might from will, a simple idea that helps kids question a worry without being told to ignore it. Bravery is described as trying while scared, not as feeling no fear, because that is something every child can do. The loop ends on feeling safe and loved, as the worry shrinks a little with every slow breath.
A loop isn’t a replacement for care. If your child’s worries come often or get in the way of school, sleep or play, talk to their doctor or school counselor. If you’re struggling or thinking about harming yourself, you can call or text 988 in the US (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline), or find a helpline in your country at findahelpline.com.